West Los Angeles


Santa Monica 90404

Woodland Hills


Couples Therapy, Marriage & PreMarital Counseling

Dona Laressa Desmond PhD, LMFT

Woodland Hills CA 91364     West Los Angeles CA 90025

Call: 1-310-281-3051

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Infidelity ~ Cheating ~ Affairs

Even if you decide to leave your relationship or marriage due to an infidelity the emotional fallout must still be dealt with so that you can move forward. If you are trying to figure out which path to take I can help you with some Counseling.

Emotional affairs are cheating

How do you know if it is an emotional affair? You meet a terrific person and feel a a great relief around them. It's both comforting and stimulating.You have a lot in common and start thinking about them when they aren't around. Something feels compelling about it. You can't wait to tell them when something happens, they become a sort of secret best friend and while there is no sex there is a high level of intimacy. You start to reach out them a lot. You feel great when they reach back. You share with them what you can't or don't share with your partner. You tell them about the empty spots in your relationship at home and they always understand. They start to become emotionally important to you. You don't want to lose them. You miss them. You sneak around to have some form of contact with them, not because it has become physically sexual but because you know your partner won't like it. When asked if you have feelings for this other person you lie or minimize.

There are several problems with this kind of emotional affair. They are a slippery slope. They also keep you from fixing your own relationship and making it better. If your partner finds out it will be almost as bad as if you had sex.

If there is a chance to survive an affair you will need the tools, guidance and support that Counseling can give you

As a Therapist I have dealt with these kinds of relationship problem many times and I know that Counseling can sometimes make a positive difference. People often need to work through a lot of different issues when infidelity occurs. Like why did this happen? How did it happen? How long was this going on? How did it start? Is it the only time? Why did you pick that person over me? Should we break up over this? Can I ever trust you again?

If you decide to stay together know that it won't be easy; there is no quick recovery from the loss of trust. Also know that many couples do get past it, and some even thrive. If you find yourself in this situation I can help you figure out why it happened and whether it's possible, in your case, to get past it. Feel free to email me about this matter.

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I look forward to hearing from you.

Warm regards,

Dona Laressa Desmond PhD


Infidelity help for couples, woodland hills 91364, santa monica 90404

Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD, LMFT

Couples Therapy, PreMarital and Marriage Counseling

Dona Laressa Desmond PhD therapistm Los Angeles 90036

Infidelity, Affairs and Cheating

If you're here it's likely that the worst has happened. Perhaps you or someone that you trust has cheated. If this is the case I am very sorry for the pain that you're going through. Infidelity and trauma go hand. Toxic emotions flood into the relationship, trust is demolished, hearts broken. Choices must be made.

If you decide to get Counseling and work on saving your relationship or marriage after an infidelity then the effects of the trauma must be healed. Although it is doable, it does take time and tremendous emotional strength to restore trust. The anger and pain are usually too turbulent to overcome on your own. Getting some Counseling with an experienced Couples Therapist can help you.

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