Interrupting

Threatening to leave

Blaming

Eye-rolling

Ignoring

Accusing

Slamming doors

Talking over partner

Refusing time-outs

Being patronizing

Bringing the drama

Do either of you frequently express your anger in ways that you aren't proud of or wouldn't want your friends to see? Do you feel drained after?

Do you fight in an ugly way? Yelling, slamming, talking over each other? Cursing, blaming, walking out? Would you be shocked if you saw a video of yourself in that state?

It's important to avoid accusations, distancing and punishing behaviors.  Would you like to get your point across without the damage ?

Help

Maybe you wish you could control the intensity of the outbursts. Counseling can help you learn emotional management of yourself and different ways to solve disagreements. This in turn will lower tensions and secure your relationship

These are forms of communication that backfire

Thoughts about relationship conflict

Frustration leads us to angry resentments and power struggles. Damaged trust. Different internal processing styles. Values. Parenting. Extended family. Finances. The kids. The pets. Housework. There are so many things to argue about.

It's true that some people argue because they need to be right about everything, however, most  argue because they are genuinely trying to resolve something but don't know how or can't get their partner on the same page.

Bridges

I'll help you express your needs and frustrations without losing your temper. There are skills for that. During counseling you'll learn to let go. I'll show you ways to disagree without damaging each other. From there bridges to real understanding can be built. This is an area of expertise for me.

Please note, I work with anger but not with domestic violence.

Yelling

Shaming

Criticizing

Put-downs

Truth-bending

Rejecting apologies

Name-calling

Dragging up the past

Gaslighting

Stonewalling

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Email is the best way to reach me

desmondpsychology@gmail.com

I look forward to hearing from you.

Warm regards,

Laressa Desmond, PhD.

CA LMFT, CPC