Conflict Resolution Skills for Couples

Nothing hurts like constantly stumbling over the same old conflict with your partner, when all you really want to do is be close. It’s hard to concentrate or have a lightness to the day when relationship struggles drag you down.

We fall in love with people who are different enough from us to create a spark. It’s that “completion feeling” of interest & fascination. We feel sad & confused when the spark burns instead of warming us. It’s a baffling betrayal to our emotional logic that we can deeply love someone that we frequently fight with & sometimes emotionally dread.

There are often small twists in the moment of a conflict that determine whether or not it will escalate or just be a bump

The good news is that conflict resolution has proven methods that work. You can and will have disagreements in your relationship but you can absolutely learn to deal with these times fairly and with an emotionally intelligent response pattern  instead of explosion, agitation or hurtful words. It’s learnable and helping Couples learn it is something that I specialize in.

If you want to shorten the problem moments & solve things more cooperatively then Couples Therapy with an emphasis on Conflict Resolution might be a good fit for you. Stop walking on eggshells or avoiding for fear of a blow-up. Give yourself the gift of more peaceful coexistence.

Please note that I work with committed  Couples. I don't do mediation or work with Couples

who are in the process of divorce. If you are divorcing, I can give you excellent referrals to therapists who specialize in that.

Email is the best way to reach me.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Warm regards,

Laressa Desmond, PhD

CPC CA LMFT