The Alienator

Resentment is like rust, it simmers under the surface insidiously corroding your attitude and filtering out the highest joys of your relationship.

Often resentment is built from too many small, unspoken hurts. Sometimes the source is more dramatic like a huge event that left you wounded   from a betrayal or abandonment.

Hear me

Another incarnation of resentment is the kind that comes from being very vocal about your needs and wants while they remain unheard. You think about when you first met your partner, how they were so attentive. Eager to know your likes. Avoiding your dislikes. But now...they don't treat you the same, your disappointment has turned to resentment.

Past

Sometimes there are events from the past that you have neither forgotten nor forgiven, but circumstance has forced you to move on anyway. You know you still feel resentment but don't bring it up because it always starts an argument. Still running in the background this dark software of resentment grates on your happiness.

Sometimes the cause lies friends that you dislike but have to be around, or a their family member who sabotages your best efforts. Sometimes your intuition is flagging a situation but your partner charges ahead anyway. You feel stuck.

Growing the light

Whatever your situation, if you are dealing with resentment you can feel better and let your heart grow lighter.

Letting an experienced Couples Therapist help you might benefit your situation.

Airing the frustrations that built up like mold in the wall will bring a gentle, calming breeze into your emotional atmosphere. While it's hard to hear truth sometimes, it sanitizes the pressure in your home and makes room for pleasurable and exciting things to flow between you. I can help you with this.

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....Warm regards,

       Laressa Desmond, PhD.

  CA LMFT, CPC