Why
Sometimes relationships are so damaged that they need repair that is akin to a structural over haul. Repair is something that I offer clients who want a more structured approach than normal Couples Therapy or Marriage Counseling. It is usually a 3 month program of weekly sessions, but length can be shorter or longer as needed by clients.
How it works
During our first & second session I will interact closely with you as we define the nature of your relationship challenges.
It’s true that sometimes the bothersome issues are a symptom of something deeper like childhood, but not always. I will help you figure that out, together we will determine exactly what is causal.
Assessment
Next I will use the focused assessments that I have personally developed over my 30 plus years as a Couples Therapist. These assessments create a laser-like clarity that helps reveal the background patterns driving your emotional discomfort.
Using the assessments, my intuition and our conversations I am able to ferret out bad patterns and the dynamics they fuel, both obvious and the more subtle.
Using assessments allows me to be efficient with your time and money. I know that Couples have already tried everything they can before feeling compelled to seek counseling and I am sensitive to that. I understand the urgency for Couples to get out of pain and onto a better path together.
Achievable Goals
We will map out the patterns, breaking them down so they can be managed differently or changed.
Next we choose some achievable goals for the improvement of your marriage or relationship. I will make suggestions while honoring your choices.
Once relationship goals are set I will help stay primed for success, monitoring that the goals are doable for you and your temperament. My aim is to generate solutions that are customized for your particular style and bandwidth as Individuals and as a Couple.
Reaching new levels
During the next part of Relationship Repair I will make all of my skills available to ease the tensions that brought you to therapy. I’ll help you stabilize small new behaviors. We can use our agreed upon goals to measure our success.
I will guide, support and help you take your relationship to a new and better level.
If this approach would benefit you send me an email and let's see how I can help you.
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Warm regards,
Laressa Desmond PhD
CPC CA LMFT
Relationship Repair