A necessary skill

Love and frustration can co-exist in you. There is room for them both. Relationships can typically house several contradictory emotions. But like loud neighbors some don't always get along.

Blow ups

Sand in the machine of love often comes from the inability to solve problems together in a smooth, efficient way. In the long run this matters as much as good sex.

Do you ever fantasize about having long lovely talks that are easy and chill? Nothing gets triggered. No one gets upset. There is no battlefield. No skirmishes. No wounds. Maybe this is what good love feels like.

Dread

It's an odd thing to dread certain aspects of the person you love. Its counter intuitive. But we know it happens. People twist them selves into avoidant balls. When its time to solve a problem together the rubber meets the road. There is no room for avoidance. Chaos. Clashes. Try as you might the conversation doesn't go in a straight line. Instead of solving one problem it seems like new problems suddenly crop up. Or you argue about how you argue. The tone. The timing. The word choice.

It's all frustratingly normal.

Work of art

There are ways to do it right. To self-regulate.To keep it simple and effective. To solve problems together without feeling like a boxing match or a concert of avoidances. The fires on the ocean can be tamed.

If you would benefit from learning new ways to communicate and resolve problems together I can help you.

Email me with your questions and I will get back to you as soon as I can. Let's find solution for your relationship.

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Warm regards,

Laressa Desmond, PhD.

CA LMFT, CPC